What do you want?

Four simple words. One big question.

The kind of question that’s on our minds a lot—especially as we get older. What do we want from our careers? What do we want from our friends? What do we want from ourselves?

How do we take the steps to live life on our own terms? Because between work and work it can often feel as though we have no time for ourselves. In fact, Gallup reported that the well-being of Americans was on the decline in 2017.

So we’re chatting through some ways to live the life you want.

LET GO OF PERFECT AND JUST GO FOR IT

There’s no such thing as perfect, so why do you keep striving for the unattainable (and unrealistic and unhealthy) goal? You have strengths. You have dreams. Don’t let perfect stand in your way.

STOP CRUSHING ON CRUSHING IT

We gotta talk. We know you want to be the best and crush it at your job, your relationship, your friendships, but it’s too much. You can’t be all things to all people all the time and maintain time for your sanity.

The allure and romanticized version of having-it-all is nothing like the real thing. So, do us a favor, stop trying to crush it and just do it.

LET YOUR HAIR DOWN (OR UP)

Your hair has a lot to say. It goes wild at times. Other times it’s a bit tamer. It makes sense, your hair is an extension of you. And you can’t deny that a great hair day can flip that frown right-side up. Move freely. Show shine. As a side note: Sounds like a pretty amazing life motto.

FORGET GOAL LISTS

Go with your gut. Not your goals. Even if this feels counter-intuitive, you need to give yourself breaks from those #goals lists and realize that you already are #goals. In the words of the queen T: “I am constantly amazed by Tina Fey. And I am Tina Fey.”

So what do you say? Are you ready to live life on your own terms and let that hair down?