The Golden Globe Acceptance Speeches That Weren’t
Rewriting history a bit.
Men are scared. Men in Hollywood are even more scared.
To point, last night, Seth Meyer, the 75th Golden Globes host, joked this in his opening monologue: “Good evening ladies and remaining gentleman,” he said to the applause of the room. "For the male nominees in the room tonight, this is the first time in three months it won't be terrifying to hear your name read out loud.”
Cue the laughter and the claps, but also, cue the dopey confused male faces. Do we laugh or do we cry. Or do we crawl under these tables? Men last night were lost.
And we do understand, but not a single man who accepted a #GoldenGlobes tonight spoke out about sexual assault, #MeToo, or #TimesUP.
Guys, wearing a black tux isn't enough. I mean, if you're going to wear the pin, at least know what it's about.
UMM.
So don't worry guys, we go this too. We did a little rewrite for you. Here's how to treat women who are changing your professional for the better.
JAMES FRANCO, BEST ACTOR, MUSICAL OR COMEDY
“First person I have to thank is the man himself Tommy Wiseau. Come on up here Tommy. 19 years ago, he was stuck in traffic from the Golden Globes. He said to his best friend Greg, “Golden Globes, so what? I’m not invited. I know they don’t want a guy with accent, long hair, so I show them. I don’t wait for Hollywood, I make my own movie.” I’m very happy to share this moment with him today and with all the women in the room, who have been pulling a Tommy for the last 75 years. Women who made their own way. And who continue to do so tonight. Thank you so much for your efforts, for your hard work. For bringing Hollywood into a new era and to every woman who has ever said, “I show them. I don’t wait for Hollywood, I make my own movie.”
ALEXANDER SKARSGARD, BEST SUPPORTING ACTOR, TELEVISION SERIES
Hi. I have a friend who is eight years old and he was perplexed when I didn’t thank him at the Emmy’s. I will not make that mistake tonight. Ossian Skarsgard this is for you. Now, it does not escape me that I am winning an award for playing an abusive rapist during a monumental time in Hollywood when predators have been exposed. When women are saying Time’s Up. Women like the powerhouses who made this show possible. I am here tonight because I have the privilege of working with extraordinarily talented women. Most of whom who are in this room. Liane Moriarty who wrote the novel. Bruna, our producer. Reese, Laura, Zoe, Shailene, and Nicole, I am humbled to stand by you. To tell a story that is the unfortunate story of so many women. Too many women. For those of you at home who don’t know, this pin that I’m wearing is in reference to the Time’s Up Legal Defense Fund which provides subsidized legal support to those who have experienced sexual harassment, assault, or abuse in the workplace. It is a movement against sexual harassment founded in 2018 in response to the Weinstein effect and #MeToo. It is a movement against the men, like the very one I am winning an award for playing. And to that man, to the Perry Wright’s of the world, your time is up.
GARY OLDMAN, BEST ACTOR, MOTION PICTURE, DRAMA
I feel very humbled and surprised to have been asked to this stage. I’d like to congratulate my fellow nominees for their beautiful work. I am in very fine company this evening. Indeed. Winston Churchill said, “My tastes are simple, I am easily satisfied with the very best.” And I was surrounded by the very best. To the magnificent makeup team – your artistry has no equal. Kristin Scott Thomas, thank you for my beautiful Clementine. Your work is exquisite. And thank you for putting up with all those awful cigars. To the women in this room, I’d like to thank you for no longer putting up with the awful, truly despicable behavior of men in Hollywood. You have battled the worst and come out victorious. You’ve been patient, too patient. And to my wife, who put up with my crazy for a year. She would say to friends, ‘I go to bed with Winston Churchill but I wake up with Gary Oldman.’ Which is, I suppose better than the other way around. I am very proud of Darkest Hour. It illustrates the words and actions can change the world– and boy, oh boy, could it use some change now. Thank you, Winston Churchill. And thank you to the women in this room and in other rooms who are also changing the world.
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Links From Our Group Chat: Time's Up, Lady Bird & Gal Gadot
Shoutout to all rad women everywhere.
Women in Hollywood are about to get after it (it being sexual harassment) tonight at the Golden Globes. While you're waiting for the awards (and ahem, the red carpet) to start, check out some of the links we passed back and forth in our group chat.
300+ women in Hollywood have HAD IT. #TIMESUP anti-harassment plan sweeps the nation.
Founder of Shea Moisture buys Essence Magazine from Time Inc making it a fully black-owned publication again!
7 Teenage Girls + Their Moms on Watching Lady Bird together.
Gal Gadot is not here for James Cameron.
Are you going to wear black tonight? Let us know!
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10 Page-Turning Books We're Loving Right Now
New year, new shelfie.
If you want #shelfie goals, you need some good stacks (of books) to line them with. Luckily, female authors are busting out badass books in droves. Get your hands and eyes on these!! We have.
1. The Vanity Fair Diaries by Tina Brown
Meryl Streep sped through this book and we know why. The Vanity Fair Diaries is the story of an Englishwoman barely out of her twenties who arrives in New York City with a dream. That woman is Tina Brown, who, between the years of 1979 to 2001 she was the editor of Tatler, Vanity Fair, and The New Yorker. Lucky for readers, during her eight year magical ride as editor-in-chief at Vanity Fair, she kept a daily diary. Today they provide an incendiary portrait of the flash and dash and power brokering of the Excessive Eighties in New York and Hollywood.
2. Women at Work Interviews from the Paris Review
Women at Work, the first anthology from the Paris Review Editions imprint, features interviews with Margaret Atwood, Simone de Beauvoir, Elizabeth Bishop, Joan Didion, Isak Dinesen, Hilary Mantel, Toni Morrison, Jan Morris, Grace Paley, Dorothy Parker, Claudia Rankine, and Marguerite Yourcenar. Intimate, deep, full of surprises, these classic interviews will be a source of inspiration and instruction to writers, students, and anyone else who cares about the creative process, or about the specific challenges faced by creative women.
Enough said. Speaking of Joan... She's always going to make our list.
3. The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
An oldie but a goodie. Didion deals with the death of her husband and daughter in this tearful tale of the year following their deaths. And for anyone who hasn't checked out the Didion Doc on Netflix yet, we've found your Saturday night.
4. Anything Is Possible by Elizabeth Strout
The New York Times Best Seller is on top of her craft in this novel that explores the whole range of human emotion through the intimate dramas of people struggling to understand themselves and others.
Plus, it's about feuding sisters. Little dramatic reading never hurt anyone's imagination.
5. I've Got This Round: More Tales of Debauchery by Mamrie Hart
One of our fave funny women, Mamrie Hart is releasing her second book this Feb! In I've Got This Round, readers will find the same shameless honesty and I'll-try-anything-once spirit they loved in Hart’s New York Times bestseller You Deserve a Drink. Mamrie doubles down on her strong female friendships, her willingness to engage in shenanigans, and her inimitable candor, taking the reader along for a wild and unforgettable journey through adulting.
6. Rookie on Love edited by Tavi Gevinson
A single-subject anthology about the heart's most powerful emotion, edited by Rookie's EIC Tavi Gevinson. Featuring exclusive, never-before-seen essays, poems, comics, and interviews from contributors like Jenny Zhang, Emma Straub, Hilton Als, Janet Mock, John Green, Rainbow Rowell & Gabourey Sidibe.
7. Sing, Unburied, Sing by Jesmyn Ward
Winner of a National Book Award for Fiction, Jesmyn's beautiful and haunting novel is about three generations and the ghosts that haunt them. It tells the story of Jojo, a young black Mississippi boy raised by his grandparents, who is forced to become a man far before he should because his mother is a drug addict, his father is in jail, and his baby sister needs a guardian.
8. Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit
In her 7 essays that punctuate exactly what you feel when getting mansplained, Rebecca takes men to task. Two of the book’s most powerful essays (“Men Explain Things To Me” and “#YesAllWomen”) are exactly what you need to read. Traditional gender roles? Nah fam.
9. It's Messy: On Boys, Boobs, and Badass Women by Amanda de Cadenet
In this deeply personal collection of essays, creator of the The Conversation Amanda de Cadenet shares the hard-won advice and practical insights she’s gained through her experiences as businesswoman, friend, wife, and mother. Part manual, part manifesto, this intimate, hilarious, and insightful collection of essays challenges stereotypes and social norms, and examines the universal experiences relevant to women today.
Take it from her-- we certainly have.
10. Her Bodies and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado
Our first pick this January for our Book Club! To kick it off this January we are starting Carmen Maria Machado's “Her Body and Other Parties," the author's debut book of short stories. A finalist for the National Book Award, the eight fables are a startling and at times unsettling cross between feminist fiction, as the stories deal with worlds in which women literally and metaphorically fade away, and science fiction
What are you reading on? Share below!
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New Year, New Ink. #FollowFriday
#tatted
Some switch up their hair color, cop a new wardrobe or lose 10 pounds to set the "new year, new me" mantra in stone. Others get tatted. If you're thinking of adding some body art this year, this #FollowFriday list can give you some major inspiration.
Check out these talented artists and go show some love!
@taticompton + @kellikikcio
@tealeigh + @daisydoestattoos
Any of your favorite tattoo artists missing from this list? Drop some names for us below to spread the love!
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Why LA-Based Christy Dawn Is About So Much More Than Cool Dresses
It is super cool tho.
Everyone in the digital fashion space has deemed LA-based fashion label Christy Dawn the “It,” the “Cool Girl,” the “Dress Every Girl in LA Is Wearing.” And they’re not wrong.
But they’re not entirely right.
That’s not the whole picture.
It'd be hard to flub your fashion in a Christy Dawn dress or sweater (recently launched!!), from both a fashion POV to an ethical one to yes, even a spiritual one.
The breezy Cali brand sources deadstock fabric, manufacturing is done locally, they pay their sewers a living wage (15+ an hour), host a ping pong lunch everything Friday at 3pm, and just got everyone who works for them health insurance. “Christy Dawn isn’t just me,” the founder and lead designer says. “It’s every person who puts energy into the garment.”
This is the pulse that beats through the company. “It’s not hard to find good people,” she says, “ if you treat them well.” As a business owner she says treating her workers well is a “non-negotiable.”
One such person is Pedro Trujillo, the company’s production manager who has been Christy Dawn’s sewer and sounding board from the beginning. Christy and Aras Baskauskas, her husband and biz partner, used to work from his couch. He used to tell them, “Most of my clients don’t usually come down here.” But working from Pedro’s couch gave Christy insight into the people side of production. “Pedro paid people so well,” she says, “it was a priority for him.”
Years of modeling also gave her insider info into her priorities. “I knew how to make an e-commerce site survive. I gathered so much data from jobs,” she says. “I asked so many questions.” She also gathered information ”No one ever mentioned the artisans,” she says of doing e-commerce every single day for four years. “There was no respect.”
"Abundance is about so much more than money.”
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As Christy Dawn grew, so did the need to find a space. Last January Christy and Aras made the decision to really go for it— they signed a lease in the Arts District, but shortly thereafter they knew it wasn’t right. “For us, the space is super important,” she says. And they made the decision to forfeit their deposit, instead moving into the 12,000-square-foot factory in downtown Los Angeles. It’s bright, clean, with a fully built out kitchen, and on tap kombucha and coffee.
It’s a place you’d be proud to work at. To show your fam. And it is a family affair at Christy Dawn.
Pedro’s daughter Valeria is the company’s production coordinator, whom they recently gave her first raise. “We told her, we’re going to give you what you ask for.” And they were true to their word. Last year Christy and Aras also called up Pedro one day and told him and Valeria to meet them at a Toyota dealership. They bought the father and daughter matching Rav 4s, so they could get to work safely. “Our company is growing,” Christy says, “but we don’t need 20 million dollars. We want every one of our sewers to be able to afford what they’re making. Money is just multiplication. It’s just numbers. It’s just energy.”
It’s an energy in each dress, blessed by Pedro’s wife Teresita, who does all the finishing work. “She’s the last person who has her hands on every garment,” shares Christy. A little while back she saw Teresita talking over the garments. She asked Pedro what his wife was doing. “She was blessing each dress,” says Christy. “We had no idea.”
What she does have an idea about are her hopes for the brand's longevity, commitment to deadstock, and sustainability. “There’s nothing timeless about a trend,” she shares of her hopes for the brand’s longevity. “I’m not afraid anymore if it’s a ‘success’ or not. Abundance,” she shares, “is about so much more than money.”
Photography: James
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Executive Travel Style: Four CEOs Share Their In-Flight Habits
Are you an aisle or window kinda gal?
Are you an aisle or window seat lover? We’ve all got our own personal travel habits—but what about execs who spend time at 30,000 feet day in and day out? We’re partnering with Alaska Airlines to find out exactly what some of our fave female CEOs spend their time in the sky. Read on to get some hot travel tips from the best in the biz.
Michelle Kennedy, Peanut
Q: Aisle seat or window?
A: Aisle! I’m pregnant at the moment and always need bathroom access without clambering over people.
Q: Go-to plane drinks & snacks?
A: Water, gallons of it, and all of the snacks—chips, chocolate, all of the bad stuff I shouldn’t eat!
Q: What are some must-haves you bring on board to make traveling easier?
A: Noise-cancelling ear phones so you can block out the world and focus on work or reading, or sleep!
Q: Do you have any in-flight routines?
A: I try to drink as much water as possible. I am paranoid about avoiding that post flight headache, and I do apply loads of face cream (Rodial dragon’s blood is my favorite—I try to use the night cream as it’s thicker and more hydrating). I haven’t been brave enough to wear a face mask on a flight yet...
Q: How do you usually spend your time in the sky?
A: Catching up on emails at the bottom of my inbox, and then I love to watch a box set. As a busy mama, who ever gets the time to watch a series of 6 episodes in a row…?! Heaven.
Q: What’s the best work trip you’ve taken recently?
A: My last trip was to NY and it was just turning into spring. I love NY in the spring!
Q: What’s your best work travel tip?
A: When traveling long haul night flight, don’t eat on the flight. Board and sleep as soon as possible. You’ll find you sleep much better without eating, and you’ll be ready to land, have breakfast and start your day!
Indré Rockefeller, Paravel
Q: Aisle seat or window?
A: Window, I do my best daydreaming there.
Q: Go-to plane drinks & snacks?
A: Water, water, more water plus nuts and dark chocolate.
Q: What are some must-haves you bring on board to make traveling easier?
A: Noise-cancelling headphones, two pairs of socks (if it’s long-haul I’ll layer up compression socks under fuzzy socks), and my Paravel Weekender bag, which perfectly fits all my on-board essentials including my computer and kindle.
Q: Do you have any in-flight routines?
A: I always have a notebook and pencil handy because being in the air allows for a kind of mental liberty from the day to day demands of my inbox and iPhone. It’s surprising what kind of creative thinking you can do at 30,000 ft.
Q: How do you usually spend your time in the sky?
A: I would like to say reading and working (and it does always start that way) but, let’s be honest, the majority of the time ends up dedicated to a movie marathon.
Q: What’s the best work trip you’ve taken recently?
A: Last year I took the best trip of my life to Antarctica. It was nothing short of a life-altering trip and led to some exciting new initiatives at Paravel.
Q: What’s your best work travel tip?
A: When traveling for work, allow yourself to be a explorer even for just 30 mins a day. Give yourself a window to let your curiosity take the lead - try to walk where you’re going, ask a stranger for directions, or try a food you can’t pronounce. It’s amazing how much you can absorb in a new setting even if you’re in back to back meetings.
“I always have a notebook and pencil handy because being in the air allows for a kind of mental liberty from the day to day demands of my inbox and iPhone. It’s surprising what kind of creative thinking you can do at 30,000 ft. ”
Shannon McLay, The Financial Gym
Q: Aisle seat or window?
A: Aisle. I always hate the thought of inconveniencing someone to get up when I have to go to the bathroom.
Q: Go-to plane drinks & snacks?
A: In the morning, it’s always club soda and snack mix. In the evening, it’s vodka soda and snack mix.
Q: What are some must-haves you bring on board to make traveling easier?
A: I have to travel with my noise-canceling headphones, my Kindle and for long distance flights, I need my neck pillow as I try to catch up on sleep.
Q: Do you have any in-flight routines?
A: I am obsessed with efficiently boarding and getting in my seat as soon as possible. One of my biggest pet peeves are people who take too long to get settled in their seats because it just delays the boarding process unnecessarily. Once I’m seated, I do a final check of my cell phone and then put it in airplane mode and leave it there until we land. I view my time on the plane as a gift of time to be unplugged, even though most planes have wifi now and you can work from the plane, I use the time to remain unplugged.
Q: How do you usually spend your time in the sky?
A: If there is in-air entertainment, I make sure I watch all of the new release movies that I wouldn’t pay to see in the movie theater. If I’ve seen most of the movies (which happens when I have a number of work trips in a row), I utilize my time reading a book on my Kindle. I used to be afraid of flying and now I see the time I spend on the plane as almost a meditation where I can unplug from the chaos of everyday life.
Q: What’s the best work trip you’ve taken recently?
A: I recently traveled to Dallas, Atlanta, LA and San Francisco to meet with Financial Gym clients and friends living in those cities. Nothing motivates me and inspires me more as a founder than connecting with our clients, listening to their needs and celebrating their life journeys with them. As much as virtual calls connect us, nothing is better than a hug in real life.
Q: What’s your best work travel tip?
A: Pack light. I used to need to check a suitcase for all of the stuff I would bring for work-related trips. Now I’ve figured out how to get everything I need in a backpack. It saves time and costs when checking in and it also means I don’t have to fight for overhead space because I can always fit my bag under the seat in front of me.
“I used to be afraid of flying and now I see the time I spend on the plane as almost a meditation where I can unplug from the chaos of everyday life. ”
Bouchra Ezzahraoui, AUrate
Q: Aisle seat or window?
A: WINDOW! Especially for long flights…
Q: Go-to plane drinks & snacks?
A: WATER mostly, I try to keep myself hydrated and will usually have a full meal before any flight. If not, a protein bar and a banana will keep me full until I land.
Q: What are some must-haves you bring on board to make traveling easier?
A: A backpack is usually more practical than a handbag and carries pretty much everything I need on board (laptops, eye mask, anything beauty..). I always have a hand sanitizer, a face moisturizer and a face refreshing toner on me.
My new secret obsession is a tiny bottle of pure lavender essential oil that keeps me zen and makes the flight much.
Q: Do you have any in-flight routines?
A: I order extra water even when I’m not thirsty, moisturize my face (sometimes put a sheet mask), stretch frequently and step off my seat every hour or so.
Q: How do you usually spend your time in the sky?
A: I read a lot and get to do many things that require focus: spreadsheets and writing tend to be my go-tos in in the sky. I also catch up with movies when I need a break.
Q: What’s the best work trip you’ve taken recently?
A: I went to LA two weeks ago with Sophie, my co-founder, and Otto, our head of retail. Work trips are always a great way to bond with the team around meals/long car rides while you’re actually doing work. I must say LA’s sunshine made things much more agreeable and fun for the team.
Q: What’s your best work travel tip?
A: Make sure you know how to get to your destination when you land... You cannot find Ubers all the time and especially If traveling Solo & overseas, make sure you connect with a local before you get to your destination. The “lost in translation” journey starts as soon as you land at the airport.
What’s your travel style? Share in the comments below!
This post is sponsored by Alaska Airlines.
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Email Etiquette: "Hey Ladies" vs. "Hey Guys," the Dilemma
Hay is for horses.
Gif credit: Michael Young
If, we're to take the admonitions of our grammar school days seriously, "hey" is an inappropriately informal way to address someone. And yet, the term "Hey Ladies," appears in my inbox, at present moment, exactly 1267 times.
That's 1267 times an email last year contained the words "Hey Ladies," in succession. Now, I don't take any issue with its formality or lack thereof. In fact, I am a rather informal emailer. I've sent emails to strangers with greetings like, "UM HI." (The response rate to "UM HI," is 100% if you're wondering.)
So no. It's not the "hey" I struggle with. It's the "ladies." Which, might seem odd considering I work and champion the work of women. Ladies. HEY LADIES! And yet...
"Hey Ladies," irks me. I don't like being called a lady. It feels diminutive to me, like I am somehow reduced or reducing the woman on the receiving end of my email stick to gender. But my solution thus far is not any better. Some might even say, it's worse.
If you're asking just what I use when addressing multiple women on an email chain? The answer is this: "Hey Guys."
"Hey guys, following up on this!" "Hey guys, me again." "Hey guys, hey hey hey."
The issue is, if I'm truly, really, all of the honest about why I use it, it's because "guy" in my mind is gender neutral. "Lady" is girly and pink and all of the "things" about my "gender" that I've never quite identified with. "Lady" is the hug I'm super uncomfortable giving you when we first meet. (I'm a handshaker OK?) It's the smiley face and the exclamation point I don't want to use, but do.
The bigger issue is-- it's not those things. Not even close. Instead, my stomp-my-email-yard refusal to address women as women, plays into the idea that a woman needs to be "one of the guys," "can hang like the guys," etc., in order to be cool. To succeed. To get ahead.
"Hey ladies," to me, is an insult. "Hey guys," is praise. And UGH to my thinking this. I'm sorry. Seriously. SERIOUSLY. It's upsetting to me that it's taken me this long to figure it out. I know that my "hey guys," is is giving power to the concept that a “guy” is more powerful than a “lady.”
Categorically untrue. And I will adjust my correspondence as such. Hey, better late than never?
How do you feel about "hey ladies," as an email greeting? Would love to hear in the comments below.
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C&C Classifieds No. 75: May Designs, Cult Gaia, YouTube & More
Check out these freshies.
New year, new job? YES.
We're into it. Which, is why we're sending out our first batch of Classifieds in 21018. Want to really start fresh? Check out these freshies.
May Designs - Austin, TX
Colehour + Cohen - Seattle, WA
Cult Gaia - Los Angeles, CA
IPSY - New York, NY
YouTube - Los Angeles, CA
Mailchimp - Atlanta, GA
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Slay Your 2018: Getting Back on the Grind
We have no time for the back-to-work-blues.
photo credit: Molly Cranna
The holidays are officially over and your out-of-office email is off. Noooo. YES. You might be in denial but the 2017 calendar is not. You had your break and ate it too (so many macarons), but it’s time put fingers to keyboard and *work work work work work*.
We know: getting back to reality is rough, and if money grew on trees, we’d be mid-eggnog siesta right now. But you’re a natural born hustler baby, we just want you to know. And you were not made to lounge about all day. To get back on track, here are 5 steps you can take to start the first workweek of 2017 off right.
HACK YOUR MORNINGS
If you spent the last week of December sleeping in, waking up to an alarm once again can be tough. It doesn’t have to be so hard. Make your mornings more efficient and cut your prep time in half by setting yourself up for success the night before.
Before you go to bed, give yourself some extra mental prep time in the AM by picking out your outfit, pre-packing your work bag, and cut time by showering the night before.
Also, if you want to cut time making breakfast in the morning, prepare some overnight oats (a favorite in the C&C office) in the fridge and you’re set to take your breakfast to the office too.
SET UP A TEAM MEETING & SET A GAME PLAN
If you want to prep for success, you need to make sure that you and your team are on the same page.
At some point this week, have everyone on your team write down their plan of action for the week/month and go over all the details of who is tackling what. Once you have all set your game plan for the week, you will feel 10x more confident in taking on the rest of the week with a clear mind and clear tasks as a team.
"A negative madditude about heading back to the office will manifest in counterproductive ways."
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GET FOCUSED AND PRIORITIZE YOUR TO-DOS
Now that you and your team have set your game plan, it’s time to prioritize your own to-dos. Get yourself focused and use your preferred task-management method. Whether you like the old school way of handwriting down your tasks, or you prefer to write them down in a platform like Asana or Trello, writing down and organizing all your tasks will make getting back on the grind a lot less bumpy.
RE-ORGANIZE YOUR WORK SPACE
New year means new desk space. A cluttered desk is a cluttered headspace-- even science says so. Don’t allows clutter to build up until it’s time to do spring cleaning. Do it now.
If you have old useless paperwork lying around your table, or you just need to freshen up your desk with new supplies, clean up. Not only will cleaning up your physical desktop (along with your computer desktop) help you stay organized, but it also gives you a sense of relief.
REPEAT POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Before you went to sleep, you probably liked a few memes on your Instagram feed about the dread of going back to work. It that may have given you a few LOLs, having a negative madditude about heading back to the office can and will manifest in counterproductive ways. Focus on positive affirmations, bump a killer playlist that gets you in good mood, grab a good cup of coffee, and get ready to slay your day. There is no room here for back-to-work blues.
What are some of the ways that you get back into your groove when returning to work? Let us know below!
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The 10 Best Moments of 2017
And our mood for 2018.
When Cher full bodied a Twitter user after posting her thoughts on DACA, our hearts sang with joy.
And gave us our motto going into 2018.
Let's crop in, shall we?
For those in the back.
Oh.
I think again, for good luck.
Just in case your eyes were closed.
What the hell, one more time.
2018, you're toast.
What's that?
Toast.
Oh, Cher. We've got you babe.
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Read Up: Create & Cultivate Book Club Launches with "Her Body and Other Parties"
Eyes on the page.
We're kicking off the new year with a new (old) habit: reading. Good old fashioned page-turning. Every month we'll be picking a new book to read and share across our social channels. We'll be chatting about it in our Facebook Group. We'll be commenting here. It will be positively delightful. The more you read, the more you know.
To kick it off this January we are starting Carmen Maria Machado's “Her Body and Other Parties," the author's debut book of short stories.
A finalist for the National Book Award, the eight fables are a startling and at times unsettling cross between feminist fiction, as the stories deal with worlds in which women literally and metaphorically fade away, and science fiction. While unconnected most of the stories feature queer women. The first fable, "The Husband Stitch," will leave you scrambling to understanding and dying to read more.
By refusing to subscribe to one literary genre, Machado is begging us to ask for more.
Here are some prompt questions to answer as you read:
What do you think Machado's writing is saying about the current state of women in the world?
How do women in Machado's book take up space, both literally and figuratively?
How do you see yourself in the stories?
Which tale most resonates with you and why?
What urban legends do the individual stories remind you of? How have they made you rethink your relationship to those legends?
Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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Self Love Twitter Accounts You've Got to #FollowFriday
For days that are just balls.
We know the holidays are supposed to be filled with love, joy + laughter, but sometimes, that's just not how it goes. If you're in a holiday slump go follow these Twitter profiles dedicated to inspiring smiles and laughs all day.
Check them out below.
@alex_elle + @idillionaire
Any of your favorite twitter profiles missing from this list? Drop some names for us below to spread the inspo!
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How These 6 Influencers Plan to Own Their 2018
New year, new...?
There are so many ways to approach resolutions. And holding yourself accountable is one surefire way to make the new year count.
So we checked in with some of our favorite bloggers and influencers to see how they're heading into 2018. From taking breaks to putting health first, they are going to make 2018 count.
The question is: what are you waiting for?
Bri Emery Is on the Path to Feelin' Good.
It sounds cliche but I am focused on my health. Less wine nights during the week, more water. take my vitamins. slow down when my body signals me to. I had a lot of health issues this year and I want to really put my health first and remember to be grateful when I’m feeling good!
Nicolette Mason Is Going to Take It Easy.
2017 was such a personally and professionally challenging year! We launched Premme, a fashion-forward plus-size clothing line, in July, and leading up to the launch and since then, it has been non stop! So my goal for 2018, honestly, is to slow down a little and take some breaks. I’m really overdue for a vacation - and am promising myself I’m going to book a real getaway ASAP!
Simply Cyn Want to Keep It Simple.
Be more organized. (ed. note: enough said.)
Kristin Ess Is Going Big.
My New Years resolution is to get Kristin Ess Hair international.
Pam Hetlinger Has Her Sights Set High.
My New Years resolution in 2018 is to continue following my dreams and doing everything I can to achieve them.
Bianca Alexa Is In Search of Balance.
Definitely to get back in shape and to have a more balanced and healthier lifestyle.
What about you? How you plan on slaying 2018? Share in the comments below.
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C&C Classifieds No 72: Habitat for Humanity, Pinterest, Ulta Beauty & more
A little something to keep you in the holiday spirit.
If your New Year's Resolutions include finding a new dream job, we suggest not falling asleep on the below offers.
A little something to keep you in the holiday spirit. Love C&C Classifieds.
Habitat for Humanity - ATL, GA
Snap Inc - LA, CA
Pinterest - LA, CA
LEAF Group - LA, CA
Virgin Atlantic - ATL, GA
Ulta Beauty - CHI, IL
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You Don't Want to Miss Out on Doing This At CreateCultivateLA
Leaving empty-handed is not an option.
Swag bags aside, Create & Cultivate is a breeding ground for new connections.
So if you're leaving empty-handed, you're doing something wrong. You should be exchanging info and making plans for 2018.
If you're worried about your networking skills and how to do just that, we've got you covered.
Practice makes perfect.
If you’re feeling antsy thinking about what you should say to start a conversation with someone, practice with your friends and see how you can nail down the starting a conversation with a stranger. From the approach, to how you introduce yourself, to what you talk about, make sure you can simulate the an entire conversation with a stranger via your friend. Come in ready with a game plan and see that networking anxiety go away.
Engage with the crowd (or the attendee next to you), but don’t be an attention seeker.
It’s easy to fall into the hole of talking about yourself and letting people know about all the things you do in a networking setting. But take a look back and think about the last person who wouldn’t stop rambling about themselves.
Exactly. Don’t be that person.
This is why it’s important to nail down your elevator pitch and keep it short, clear, and concise. Give people the Cliffs notes to your story, and leave them wanting more so they are more inclined to email, call, or text you and get to know you more. Rule of thumb: always keep them wanting to know more.
"Always keep people you network with wanting to know more."
However, make sure you’re treating the crowd with the same level of interest as you would want them to give you. Be genuinely engaged in knowing who they are, their career, and their story, and see how you can start building a strong connection.
Don’t give out your cards, trade them.
Of course, we should always come handy with a stellar set of business cards that we're ready to hand out. It’s an obvious tip, but one we have to remind you of. Make sure that your business card isn't generic and can show off your creativity and brand effortlessly.
Also, a rule of thumb to have when you’re networking is to make sure that you’re sure you get as many business cards as you hand out. You don’t want to leave empty handed.
"Make sure that you’re sure you get as many business cards as you hand out when networking."
Follow-up.
After you’ve finished meeting a new person and have hopefully gotten their contact information, make sure that you’ve written some notes and remember one key point in your conversation (doesn’t have to be business related, it can be something about your mutual love for Honey Nut Cheerios).
Wait a day or two to follow up, and use that key point as a conversation starter for the next time you reach out to them. Not only is this a good way to remind them that you met, but it will let them know that you were genuinely engaged in what they had to say and who they were.
And if you happen to meet someone at our happy hour on Friday, feel free to email or text them that same night so you can meet on site at Create & Cultivate LA the next day! #BuildYourCCSquad
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Take the Leap: 5 Reasons to Start Before You're "Ready"
Ready? You were born ready.
photo credit: Kelley Raye
If you are reading this post, I'm going to guess that you either:
Have a full or part time day job and are running your blogging or creative business in your free time (and possibly want to take that blog or business full time) or,
Work on your blog or creative business full time and want to take it to the next level.
If either of these guesses are true, keep reading, friend.
You are not alone. There are a LOT of people trying to do exactly what you are doing. I write this not to deter you from doing it, but to illustrate that in order to stand out and grow, you're gonna have to take action.
Here's the really great news: You have a lot of power in this situation. More than you probably realize.
And to harness that power and start allowing big things in your business and life, you have to get comfortable with being a little uncomfortable.
One thing I notice with aspiring creative business owners vs. entrepreneurs is that they are timid to take big risks. They don't want to let go of that day job for fear of struggling financially. They don't want to reach out for that big opportunity in their business for fear of being rejected (or even worse, ignored). They don't want to talk too much about their work or ask too much money for their products and services, for fear that they will turn off potential customers and clients, or won't be able to deliver on their promises.
"You have to get comfortable with being a little uncomfortable."
Tweet this.
See a pattern forming? Yep, it's fear. Fear of not being ready. Fear of making a big commitment without knowing the outcome. Fear of not being good enough.
Fear of struggle.
Once you can move past the fear and use your intuition--that gut feeling--to make big decisions for your business, you will find that really great things will start happening.
But what if your gut is telling you that you aren't ready to take those big leaps?
Here are my thoughts on that:
1. Spoiler: You will never be ready.
You can plan your next move for years without ever actually making the move. It's fun to plan and research, isn't it? You are learning! You are filing all that information away neatly for the day that you are finally ready to launch. So much fun!
And you're totally protected by the fort of information that you have built around yourself.
But you are trapped. You have to take action, or all that research will go to waste. You might even find that the information you gathered wasn't as helpful as what you will uncover by taking the leap and putting yourself out there.
2. You will figure it out and learn as you go.
I run a product-based business and a couple of years ago I decided to start wholesaling my products to retailers. I knew nothing about wholesale, except that it was a great way to sell more product and get fresh eyes on my work.
One night, I finally decided to start reaching out to shops, and ended up getting a really large order. It was amazing. And so stressful!
I did many things wrong, even after following all the "advice" I had found online. I got paid late and I barely made any money.
But my experience with that order helped shape my entire wholesale program as it is today.
Now? I have regular wholesale orders and the bulk of my income comes from my wholesale business. And I get paid on time!
I threw myself into it and learned from my inevitable mistakes, and now it's no biggie.
3. The money will come.
I've amazed myself at times with how quickly I can make $300 when my feet are held to the fire.
I'm not here to tell you to quit your day job tomorrow, but trust me when I say that you know how to make money on your own. Sometimes that day job (or other job-like commitment) is a financial crutch. You think you need it.
You need money, not a specific job. There are plenty of ways to make money by doing what you love.
Start figuring out ways to make up that income. Start scaling back your day job hours. Start taking back your time and devoting it to things that you really want to do. Do these things before you can rationalize it (by the way, the only rationalization you need is that you want to do it).
You might be amazed at how resourceful you are, too, when your feet are held to the fire.
4. Now is the best time to start building your experience.
The sooner you put new work out into the world and introduce it to the people that can help you grow your business, the sooner you will build a fantastic body of work.
Your work may not be the best ever the first time you create that new product, or reach out for that big brand collaboration or magazine feature. But if you do it now, and keep doing it over time while taking note of the things that weren't strong, you will improve.
If you don't look back and cringe a little at your old work, then you probably launched too late. Launch early and don’t give up on the opportunities that are important to you.
5. There's no better feeling than doing exactly what you want every day.
Several years ago, I spent most of my time doing all the things I should have been doing and only dreaming about all the things I actually wanted to do.
Now, I get to choose what I want to do most days. Being able to spend my time on things that bring me joy is one of the most empowering feelings, ever.
But you don't get to that place by sitting around waiting for it to happen to you. You have to chase it, wrangle it, overcome adversity, and ignore everyone saying "You know what you should do..."
Focus consistently on your goals, both big and small. What action will get you closer to achieving them? Do that.
And do it as soon as possible.
Casey Sibley is a Reno, Nevada based designer and writer. She writes the blog Leap Repeat, sharing her experiences in pursuing a business and life that brings her joy, and encouraging other aspiring creative entrepreneurs to lead a life by their own design, on their own terms. She also owns Casey D. Sibley Art + Design, a lifestyle brand of accessories and home goods in a colorful, modern style meant to inspire a happy life.
You can find her sharing behind the scenes snapshots of her work on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, and a few thoughts on leading a joyful life on Periscope @caseydsibley.
An original version of this article appeared on Blog Society.
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'Tis the Season: These IG Profiles are Giving us Crafty Holiday Vibes
'Tis the season to DIY.
If you're looking for fun and creative ways to celebrate the holidays with friends and family, we've got some accounts full of festive DIY projects for you to follow this Friday!
There's a few mommy + me accounts in the mix so the kids can join the fun too!
Check them out below.
@hellowonderful_co + @thegoodtwinco
Need new inspirational IG accounts to follow? Our #FollowFridays posts will have you showing mad love online when we round up our favs in art, business, wellness, philanthropy, tech, media + so much more. Show them some love!
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C&C Classifieds: Spry Workforce, Hips + Curves & Amazon Studios
Christmas came early.
It's official. We are rounding the final corners of 2017. It's kind of unfathomable.
How did we get here? What exactly even happened this year? It's been a wild one. And we've all been on the ride together. But, if over the course of the year your career train got a tad derailed, we want to help you can back on track for 2018. Check out the newest C&C Classifieds below!
Spry Workforce - Remote
Amazon Studios- Santa Monica, CA
Lorna Jane - Santa Monica, CA
The Creative Group - Austin, TX
Bloomingdales - NY, NY
Rotten Tomatoes - LA, CA
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6 Texts Responses to Your Boss That Are Too Passive Aggressive
Sounds great.
I was feeling great, but then my mood changed. Happens all the time. And to the best of us.
We get snippy. Grumpy. Hangry. Overwhelmed by emails and a lack of Vitamin D. We have long days and are short on sleep. All of these effect how we respond to certain situations. And sometimes we get a little too passive aggressive. Espeically over text, where we feel like we can get away with a little 'tude.
#1 OK. or K.
That period is so telling. So is the all caps. If you really do mean, Ok! then add an exclam or write it out: okay. It's so much more gentle that way.
#2 The hard ask, followed by a smiley face.
We all know what that smiley face means. It's a big ole FU. Wink.
#3 Sure.
Here's the thing, everyone reads "sure" in a harsh tone. Even if it's meant playful and "sure, I'd love to do that." An unqualified "sure" is a surefire way to piss off whomever is on the receiving end.
#4 Fine.
Same as the above, especially when followed by a period. It's too short, curt, and doesn't exactly scream, "I'm on it!"
#5 That's not my job, but happy to pitch in.
There are a lot of tasks we all take on that "aren't our job." Airing your grievances via text to your boss is not the way to address it. It's not professional. It's not mature. And most likely, it's going to get a smiley face FU in return.
#6 The three dots (AKA an ellipses) followed by... nothing.
Let's say you get a text from your boss on the weekend and it's urgent. You start to respond, she sees you responding ... she's waiting ... and then ... nothing. And nothing for hours. If it's urgent and she's texting you, for the love, please respond. If it becomes an issue or everything is "urgent" on the weekend, a larger talk is warranted. But know that she likely doesn't want to be sitting around waiting on you anymore than you want to be hearing from her. Text her back and move on.
So how do you prevent yourself from snapping in a work environment? We've got a few tips for ya'll to put into practice.
1. Stop visualizing the worst case scenario.
Part of the reason we get stressed is because we're thinking doom and gloom. A pessimistic attitude is not about the present. Most often it's because we're borrowing negative emotions from the future and adding them to our present current mood. If you mess up with a client or blow it at work, don't imagine getting fired. That's only going to put you in a worse/stressed AF mood. Imagine taking responsibility for your actions and then doing just that.
2. Realize it takes more energy to be angry.
Getting mad at your job, your colleagues, your boss... totally normal. But holding onto grudges that lead to months of passive aggressive texting or emailing is incredibly counter-productive. Use that energy to come up with a plan where you can be HAPPY at work. It's a win-win for all.
What's the most passive-aggressive text you've sent or received in a work context? Share below!
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Let's Talk About Love Language in the Creative Workplace
Men should prob read this.
Love language, not to be confused with romance languages like French, Italian, and Spanish, is an important part of your communication and interaction with others. There’s a very well-known book called The Five Love Languages, which explains the ways in which people like to give and receive love from their partners, and how you can make each type of person feel the most loved and appreciated.
The main theme of the aforementioned book is that there is no fool proof, one-size-fits-all method to communicate to a partner that you care about them. The same concept is true when attempting to land a new job, bond with your co-workers, or improve an existing client relationship, especially with creatives in the corporate world.
Here’s a breakdown of the five ways that people feel appreciated—and how you can apply this knowledge to your advantage in the workplace.
Gifts *ahem it's the holiday season*
It doesn't have to cost you a dime. Workplace gifts can come in the form of shared information, like sending a colleague or boss an article relevant to your company. Perhaps it is a white paper on new design software, or a blog post about the most annoying fonts. (Ryan Gosling would appreciate that one - we all know he hates Papyrus!)
Promo or swag items are also appropriate during the holidays or for another special occasion. I personally LOVE corporate swag, especially when it’s edible, or practical items like water bottles or portable chargers. When working with creatives, think about something they would like, such as a custom stylus or dot journal.
Quality Time
For many, quality face time is the the preferred method of communication. Especially when working with new clients or when starting a new role. For QT lovers, sending an email every few weeks won’t suffice. Instead, they will be much more appreciative if you set up face to face meetings.
The creative process can be complex, whether this is giving a brief for banner artwork, or an intake call to compose a white paper. Many subtle details can’t be captured through bullet points, and require an in-person (or at least a phone) conversation. In remote work environments, this can be a bit tricky. Try to keep yourself available for Google Hangout/Skype meetings and always be online when your boss or client needs you. Lastly, communicating realistic timelines are crucial. The client has deadlines to meet, but you don’t want to cut your creative process short. Be crystal clear about how long certain things take to finish to ensure quality, and don’t allow yourself to be rushed!
Words of Affirmation
It never hurts to send a thank you note after a professional exchange, that’s just basic manners. Those folks whose love language includes words will certainly appreciate that handwritten note or email thanking them for working with you. Luckily for creative types, you can put your talents to use and write a beautiful poem, or design a custom typography illustration. Vocalizing your appreciation can speak volumes about your professionalism and positive attitude.
Additionally, when brainstorming with a client, it can be helpful to talk about emotions. This is not a session where you share your personal emotions, but rather the emotions the client is looking to elicit from their audience.The more information you can find out about what emotions or feelings your client wants the project to convey, the more aligned your goals will be.
Acts of service
These “acts” don’t have to include grand gestures. For some people, the epitome of service is when their significant other goes out of their way to do an everyday task like taking out the trash without being asked. Similarly, for some clients, a little extra service goes a long way. Simple things like hand delivery, discounting/waiving fees, or saving your client time by making their travel arrangements can go a long way to make them feel appreciated. Another thoughtful gesture is to show a client a sneak peek or preview before the deadline. Delivering early and giving a behind the scenes look of your project is sure to impress!
Physical Touch
I’m certainly not suggesting anything that will land you a complaint with HR!! In a romantic relationship, people who speak this love language like holding hands, hugs, or other forms of PDA. In the professional world, this can translate to hand shake styles. A firm, yet natural shake is always best. A “I’m sticking my hand out to shake but really I wish you would kiss my hand to worship me like the princess I am” extended limp hand is just as bad as a “I’m going to break your fingers to show you that I am important” handshake. Both options guarantee an awkward first impression with a boss, colleague, or client, and should be avoided at all costs. Not confident on your handshake yet? Practice on a friend, partner, or family member until you get it right.
Shake on it? OK. Now.
How to tell which type you’re dealing with:
Take note of how the person in question treats you. Chances are, they will act upon whichever gestures they appreciate the most. Reciprocate in the same style. If they are hard to gage, experiment with several different styles to show your appreciation, and pay careful attention to how they react to each.
It’s also important to keep in mind that women and men generally have different professional communication styles. According to Monster, men are typically more aggressive about sharing their ideas, and women are more inquisitive. Forbes conducted research and found the top strengths for women are: body language awareness, good listening skills, and display empathy effectively. Alternatively, the top strengths for men are: commanding physical presence, ability to get straight to the point, and display power effectively. Keep this in mind when you’re next addressing your client!
If you can’t narrow down their particular favored love language, or preferred communication method based on their gender, find out their birthday and use this guide based on their sign! When in doubt, trust your gut. It is always a good idea to keep the lines of communication open in your creative workplace, regardless of your preferred love language!
Written by: Kait Dunning 👩💻 Marketing Consultant; 💙 Founder: Giv-Now; 💼 Founder, Fierce Girls Entrepreneurs Club
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