Feminism Keeps Losing Its Mind & Tops Over Boobs
12 questions we want answers to.
Two weeks ago Emily Ratajkowski and Kim Kardashian reminded the world of their totally bodacious bodies — lest anyone forget, by posting a topless selfie, middle-fingers to the world, up. It was a follow-up photo to a similar selfie Kim had posted a few weeks prior, which, after receiving negative backlash she posted the following on Twitter:
From being told to act like a mother, to stop pretending that these nude mirror moments are empowered acts of feminism, to message boards screaming, “What message are you sending to young women??” Kim has received as much negative attention for selfies like these as she has money for her app.
In the midst of the uproar Emily took to her Twitter, to say:
“I am not shamed or apologetic of what my body might represent to you.”
She continued,
"Aren't we passd this bs way of thinking? The whole goal here is to let wmn do what they want for their reasons. To have the power to choose."
To which she received equal measure backlash and support, speaking to the divide the feminist movement has long felt over the boob issue. The battleground of breasts as political movement continues to be one thick with controversy. Should we be prude or libertine? What's better for the cause?
While the argument can-- and has been-- made that these photos are intended for the male gaze and only contribute to a women’s position as object, for a movement that currently feels lost in the nebulous between “bad” and “good” feminism, women imprinting their views on other women is equally as dismissive and damaging.
So here are twelve questions I have. Feel free to chat with me in the comments below.
1. If we, as women, are fighting for agency of our bodies, why are we so up in arms when someone (most often a celeb) uses their million-follower platform to show agency over their own body? Filtered or not.
2. How can we as a society be closer than ever to accepting sex work, as real work, and yet, still treat this issue so preciously?
3. When can we stop discussing sex as a moral issue?
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4. When can we stop telling other women what it means to “be a mother?”
5. Why do we only feel like it’s progress when we see other women who are “like us,” posting nudes. That is, not "perfect,"-- a la Kim and Emily's tiny waists and huge boobs? When Refinery29 posted un-retouched photos of 25 women with real breasts the comments were encouraging. Readers said it was a beautiful series and asked for “more like this.” Facebook mom groups are always posting links to what “real” bodies look like after breastfeeding. These posts are celebrated. Confusing.
6. Is it less feminist when it’s a woman with a beautiful body? Is it the "perfection" that causes it to be less feminist?
7. Does baring nipples, with movements like #freethenipple, actually desexualize them? Maybe I don't think nipples are a big deal, but are we kidding ourselves pretending that they are not sexual?
8. In an industry where some of the most celebrated female characters have been written by old, white men, should we not celebrate when this isn't the case? Thinking about Lena Dunham's character on Girls, and her flashing vagina Basic Instinct style last week. Are women owed some kind of power play-- a middle-finger to the years spent under the male gaze?
9. If women want attention or validation, why are we so offended by this? Do we have to completely reject patriarchal beauty standards in order to be good feminists?
10. Why can’t we operate from within the structure that exists to take back our bodies? Can we be sexual creatures without operating under the regime of the male gaze?
11. Why is the feminist platform so divided over what it means to be liberated?
12. Can you use your body as a marketing tool and still have control over it?
The only answer I’ve come up with so far is this:
Flaunt your body if you love it. Don’t flaunt it if you love it. But just love it, OK? That’s the most liberated thing you can do.
"Flaunt your body if you love it. Don’t flaunt it if you love it. But just love it, OK? That’s the most liberated thing you can do."
Arianna Schioldager is Create & Cultivate's editorial director. You can find her on IG @ariannawrotethis and more about her on this site she never updates www.ariannawrotethis.com
A 10-Minute Workout for Your Busy Career
Plus a playlist to boost your mood.
THE AVERAGE WORK WEEK IS 47 HOURS LONG.
Which means there are plenty people clocking hours that don’t allow for an after work barre or yoga class or spin session. So where does one find the time to fit in a workout while working toward their dreams? Anywhere. Your office, your living room, in a hotel room. Whether you work from home, meet with clients coast-to-coast, or hold court daily at an office, you’ve got to move while you make moves.
Working out is proven to improve your mood and increase productivity. And can help fend off everything from jet lag to post-lunch crashes. So grab some water, a co-worker, and maybe that free conference room, and follow along with this ten-minute workout from barre3 Founder Sadie Lincoln. It's one of our favorite do-anywhere workouts. Oh, and if you still need to put some bass in your day, click through to the barre3 x Create & Cultivate Playlist.
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Making Statements: Your Guide to Being Bold in the Office
Power dressing leads to power moves.
STANDING OUT IN THE WORK CROWD.
It's a tricky balance, because what you want is to be a team player while also advancing your career and showing that you're bold as brass. Or perhaps diamonds, in the case of Simon G. The jewelry company knows all about making statements-- from pieces that celebrate achievements and love, to brilliant necklaces that elevate an entire outfit.
We're breaking down the 6 ways you can be bold in the office.
1. POWER POSING IS GOOD FOR THE BRAIN AND BODY
Online, content in king. In person, it’s confidence. One of the best ways to “fake it till you make it” is with your stance. Your body language has been proven to shape who you are, affecting everything from the way people view you and your intelligence to the way you speak. The most common power pose is “opened up” and indicates a position of control. Instead of a closed off body language that communicates a more meek personality.
A power pose can actually change the way you view yourself, even change your body chemistry. Posing for just two minutes can increase your risk tolerance, which makes for bolder and more executive office decisions.
2. POWER DRESSING, WELL THAT ALSO MATTERS
When you look good, you feel good. And making a statement when getting dressed to go before the board or you boss can be as simple as adding a Simon G. necklace that says, my outfit is boss, and so are my ideas. A successful work uniform saves time, energy, and also lets people know what kind of work you do.
There’s a reason it’s called dressing to impress: it works. You project confidence and earn the trust of people entrusting you to get the job done.
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3. ESTABLISH YOUR CONFIDENCE EARLY
Everyone claims to love the story of the girl who came into her own, but in truth, it’s much more impressive to own the room or a job without being primped. If you’re about to host a meeting, set an agenda, talk about priorities, and ideas moving forward in order for your team to work most efficiently.
If you have expectations or if goals are changing, put those on the table. The tone you set is crucial for not only establishing confidence but also getting the results you want.
You are in charge. So act like it.
4. DON’T FORGET WHERE YOU CAME FROM
This may feel counterintuitive but it’s so important to bring your past into your present, and allow it to inform your future. In fact, confident but humble is the way to go when it comes to power moves. Being bold doesn’t mean having an ego about what you do, and it certainly doesn’t mean that it’s an excuse to belittle your team or workmates.
You’re only as good as your team, whether you’re at the top of the ladder or the bottom. Sparkle and shine in the office or at a meeting in a piece like this from Simon G., while remembering your roots.
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5. SHOW, DON’T TELL THE WHY AND HOW YOU’RE A UNIQUE ASSET.
Like a gorgeous piece of statement jewelry that speaks for itself, you need to make sure that you are engaging your peers with tangibles without telling them why you’re great at your job.
Show them with success. Meeting booked. Partnership deals in the works. A cold call that proves you have the stomach to be fearless.
6. LOOK AHEAD, INSTEAD OF AROUND YOU
This is simple: comparison is the thief of joy, but it’s also the buzzkill of confidence, and ultimately success. Own the position you’ve found yourself in and you’ll find that all of the sudden you’re no longer faking it.
(And when in doubt or you feel yourself feeling not so bold, ring up a mentor who will tell you next steps.)
Boost Productivity & Concentration with One Simple Switch
Bear with us as we ask you to put down that latte.
It’s 2 PM, you’re on your 3rd or 4th coffee, perplexed as to why you’re still not percolated.
In fact, you’re nodding off, ready to head home and clock out for the day, even though you still have a solid amount of work to get done. It’s a common mistake to think that caffeine will help us stay energized throughout the day, when in fact it’s often doing quite the opposite.
Sorry to break the coffee bean bad news to you, but all the vanilla lattes and black coffees are probably sending you on a vicious cycle of jitters and crashing that’s slowing down your productivity. You feel sluggish, because it’s real.
Part of the problem is that we’ve grown to love the crash and burn; the 2 PM java run is part of our work culture. Think of how many times a week you turn to a colleague and say, “Want to go grab a coffee?” It’s fun, it’s a break from the grind, but it may be the last thing you need.
At a certain point caffeine addicts can’t feel its effects anymore. Beyond that, adding on one espresso shot on top of the last, can dehydrate you— another major flaw in caffeine’s DNA. Dehydration is known to reduce concentration and diminish productivity. Why coffee? We thought you were our BFF for life.
So while it may not be as fun to ask your workmate if they want to head to the water cooler for a late afternoon boost, test it out. Save yourself the java drama and see how water can help you stay just as alert as a shot of pure, heavenly espresso.
DITCH THE 2PM CRASH & BURN
We know that our bodies depend on water. But though caffeine stimulates our sympathetic nervous system and gives us the temporary jolt we need, it also does something else: it make us need to relieve our bladders. The problem with this, is that it is incredibly dehydrating. Every time we use the restroom, we lose water. The less water we have in our systems, the thicker our blood gets and the slower it moves through our veins. That sluggish feeling you’ve experienced? It’s actually happening when our bodies use oxygen at a slower rate.
Coffee also stimulates us in ways we aren’t aware, so though it may not be giving you the boost you need to make it through that Keynote presentation, it could be the reason you’re tossing and turning at night. And without a good night’s rest, you’re going to be tired the next day…hence, more coffee. So, how do you break this cycle? With water.
Good ole H20 hydrates you for mental focus and doesn’t make you want to crawl back into bed. With Waiākea Hawaiian Volcanic Water, you can power up with its naturally infused electrolytes and minerals that will give you the clarity and creativity to get you through the day. Plus you can feel good while drinking it because it's ethical and sustainable.
CHARGE UP + CLEANSE YOUR BODY WHILE DOING IT
Coffee may be a diuretic, but it’s not flushing out the right toxins that can help our bodies feel revitalized. Also, the more coffee Water, on the other hand, can do that, and manage to keep us awake without the crash. The more water you drink, the more you help your body by flushing out toxins (coffee and caffeine included). Waiākea Hawaiian Volcanic Water is loaded with potassium, sodium, calcium, and magnesium, along with many other minerals that make the water naturally alkaline, which helps balance out the over-acidic environment of our bodies. Not something coffee can really fight since it’s pretty acidic itself. The truth is in the science.
MAKE DRINKING WATER A HABIT
Step 1: Hide the Keurig. Step 2: Hide the coffee mug. Step 3: Invest in a water bottle.
It might sound silly, but once you start using a water bottle, especially one with a sipper or straw, you’ll find yourself sipping from the bottle every five minutes, ’til you find yourself drinking five or six bottles of water a day. Your body naturally needs water, so it won’t be a surprise when you find yourself refilling your bottle every hour.
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This also becomes easier when the water you're drinking, tastes great. Not all water is bottled equally. When your water tastes like chlorine or feels lifeless, you'll be less inclined to drink it. But a good source of water is key when establishing a habit of hydration, and you'll be surprised to find that you actually crave water the way you once did caffeine.
And trust us, the regular visits to the restroom won’t be as bad as the 2 PM crash. You need to get up and move anyway.
5 Essential Office Decor Tips from the Creative Director of High Fashion Home
Make it pretty but useful.
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Dolley Frearson is Co-Founder and Creative Director of High Fashion Home, a destination spot for anyone looking to revamp a space or choose from a huge variety of high design products equally high on value and quality. But the pieces offered aren't just for the home, no matter what the name says.
With the shift in corporate culture (which, for many means buh-bye to the cubicle!) and the continued surge in startups, office spaces are starting to feel a bit more homey-- or at least somewhere you don't mind spending overtime in. We asked Dolley for her 5 essential tips for creating a "high fashion" office that feels like home/work.
MAKE IT A PLACE OF BEAUTY AND INSPIRATION
People think that an office (home, startup, or otherwise) needs to look like an actual corporate office; bookcases, filing drawers, and executive desk, etc. but it doesn't. Whether you spend 1 hour a day in there or 8 hours, your place of work should be a space that inspires you. So, think about places that inspire you-- whether it's a clean modern space like the Apple store, a hip boutique hotel, a feminine retreat to call you own, or a historical library with art work and books for inquisitive minds. Start with your inspiration and build around that.
Click through for four of my favorite desk picks.
MAKE IT USEFUL
You don't want to build a study that no one uses. Think about who would use it the most and how you would use it. If you have a huge space, feel free to use a dining table instead of a desk (like the above Echo Marble Dining Table at the Create & Cultivate office in LA). With laptops, iPads and wireless printing these days, you no longer need the typical desktop computer technically. If you're like me and like to use your home office as a "study" or "library" for your kids to share, consider a round, oval or rectangular dining table with 4-6 chairs. It's also nice to have a larger table when they need to work on a school project or if your kids want to have a study group at home. If you don't want to share the space with the kids, a large table will still be nice if you need to share the space with your spouse or if you have meetings often or need more surface space for projects.
Click through for four of my favorite dining as desk picks.
TO COLOR OR NOT TO COLOR
For those who like a clean canvas to clear their minds, a neutral wall color with monotone or muted colors in the furniture and accessories is the way to go. Some need color to bring them ideas and energy. If color inspires you, by all means find that perfect artwork or rug that has the colors you love in it. You can also go with a black or dark charcoal gray or any shade of deep blue. I personally love home offices to look like a hidden cave or jewelry box, but that's my way of creating an office retreat. This idea works best with an office room that has higher ceilings and windows for natural light.
DECLUTTER YOUR OFFICE (AND YOUR LIFE)
Declutter your office (and your life) - I'm a strong believer in the saying "tidy house, tidy mind!" I think it's incredibly important to keep your home (and office) organized and simplified. Nowadays, there are so many great boxes, file boxes, trays, etc. to keep you organize. If you start off with the right tools, it will help keep your space in order.
ACCESSORIES ON SHELVES
If you love collecting books and objects, that's fine, but keep them organized and make them look like they have meaning on your shelves. If you have built-ins already but don't have enough books (or any at all), combine your current books or new and beautiful coffee-table books you love with some great accessories like objects, sculptures, pretty boxes, plants, etc. It's great way to inject color and add texture to your shelves. But keep these shelves a bit open so they don't look too cluttered and busy. There are so many great design blogs and Pinterest photos of bookshelves to give you some great ideas.
Dress The Part: Corporate, Startup, or Freelance?
If you're going to work the part, you should also dress the part.
Office culture has changed a lot of the years, and it’s left some of us a tad bit stumped on how to dress. #help. Just when does one wear a power suit? And what’s the deal with casual Fridays, when jeans have become an every day part of the work week? You’ve got enough to worry about in the morning without getting held up by your closet.
So, we asked for a little help from Bar III, the fashion-foward line from Macy’s, to figure out how to get dressed (and out the door in time) in the AM. With modern pieces that fit into any office environment, you’ll look oh-so-profressional— whether you work in a corporate environment, spend days and nights at a start-up, or you’re on that freelance hustle.
Start with a basic pair of black pants and top from their line, and follow the below to figure out the office culture style that fits your personality best. It’s a no-fuss solution to setting the bar higher.
3 Ways to Be Contagiously Social
Go forth and infect the masses.
Strong women can tell stories that simultaneously rock viral reach and niche connection, and guess what? You’re part of this squad, and we’ve got a name: contagiously social. When we’re contagiously social, it’s not just our stories that ignite, but also the style in which we share them. Best of all, this fierce fusion is surprisingly simple. Just do three things:
Abandon. Obsess. Infect.
1. Abandon labels (hashtags included)
You know the nuances of your industry, platforms, and followers, so trust that your social strategy will work like muscle memory when you let go of labels. Share in the moment. This strategy is so real, it might be surprised to hear itself called that.
Teen Vogue Digital Entertainment Editor Ella Cerón rocks this. She’s a social media savant (Insta, Twitter, Facebook, and beyond), but people know her first and foremost as a funny, know-all fashionista who’s not afraid to get real when breaking news breaks hearts. It’s seamless yet unobvious content strategy focused on real-time stories, personality (on and beyond brand), and community (from close friends to influencers...and by that, I mean Kim Kardashian).
What inspires or surprises you right now? Tell that story, even if it’s not ready-made with a hashtag. There’s both freedom and followers to be found in this relatable-yet-reckless abandon.
2. Obsess over what you love
Reclaim obsession. It’s now a powerful, positive word that screams, “I’m passionate and my own person!” Be the #bosslady of can’t get enough. Champion what you love and pay no heed to “trending.” Start the social convo. Chances are, other women and brands obsess over cheap lipstick, hot sauce, and puns, too. (No? Just me?) Create a project, campaign, or partnership together! When you celebrate shared passion, the right people follow suit, and bam—obsession transforms into collaboration.
Jazmine Hughes and Jessica Kane rock this. Hughes, associate editor at The New York Times Magazine, wrote a brilliant Cosmopolitan story for which she dressed as Empire’s Cookie to explore a question on many women’s minds: Do I deserve this job? (Spoiler alert: Yes, you do.) Kane, director of millennial outreach at the Huffington Post, loves donuts. From HuffPost’s first-ever donut gif to deliciously-hyperlinked out-of-office emails, she bakes this love into her personal and professional brand like a boss.
Share what you love. Feelings and followers will be mutual. It’s the best answer to Mariah Carey’s enduring question, “Why you so obsessed with me?”
3. Infect with unique style
How is a huge part of storytelling. Take Tasty, for example. All it took was some sharp overhead camera footage in the kitchen, and now our Facebook feeds (pun intended!) are filled with BuzzFeed’s mac and cheese miracles. It’s all about style, so once you have your story, shake up how you share it. This could be visual or verbal, but it’s gotta be vibrant.
Fashion designer Misha Nonoo rocks this. Nonoo launched New York Fashion Week’s first-ever #instashow with her SS16 collection. Nonoo brought it to the hashtagged height of #NYFW with the help of 30 #bosslady influencers like Lena Dunham (hey, 2.4 million+ followers, nice to meet you). Media loved it, and it caught on: Nonoo just wrapped up her fall 2016 instashow in partnership with rewardStyle, this time using her personal Instagram and shoppable links with LiketoKnow.it. Now you see this content—monetized-yet-meaningful, Insta over in-person—and this style—larger images made from the ‘gram grid—from the best brands, corporate accounts, and small creative projects.
Stories and style infect our industry, and soon, we see their symptoms everywhere. We spread a brilliant bug. And don’t worry—“new” doesn’t have to mean “never before.” It’s all about finding fresh ways to fuse your what with your how.
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You’ve got something compelling and contagious to share. Go forth and abandon, obsess, and infect. I can’t wait to catch this wildfire.
Aileen McGraw is a writer on on a mission to redefine sartorial by fusing all things social, art, and editorial. Her work intertwines stories and strategy to amplify the bold and the not-yet-told. She’s been published in the Huffington Post, majestic disorder, and Chickpea Magazine, among others, and currently rocks content strategy at Microsoft. She lives by the words, "There's no such thing as too spicy." Find Aileen’s portfolio here.
Maskimize Your 2016: How to Put Your Best Business Face Forward
We got face masks in our bag, swag.
It’s the night before a big business meeting and you’re stressed. It’s totally normal, but do you know what happens when you have a mini-freak out? Your skin often has a mini flare up. Research shows that people are more likely to respond positively to good skin, so we asked our friends at Origins how to make sure we’re all putting our best business face forward this year. Their advice? Mix and mask your way to glowing success – and skin!
To maximize success, Origins just released a totally new innovation in masking to obtain even greater high performance results. Maskimizer™ Skin-Optimizing Mask Primer is the first-ever mask primer to prep, prime and hydrate skin, leaving it more receptive to the high performance benefits of Origins masks. Just a few spritzes of Maskimizer on clean skin before mask application enables you to mask and relax.
Next, choose one of Origins Single-Use Mask Pods, which are also perfect for carrying in your purse or stashing in your desk if you’re on the go. There are so many fan-favorites to choose from, but here are our favorite combinations!
Don’t Fret Before a Meeting with a Potential Client: Use Out Of Trouble™ 10 Minute Mask To Rescue Problem Skin
When you’re meeting one-on-one with a new client, your face is front and center, but nerves and stress can make you red and blotchy. Get “Out of Trouble” before your meeting with an easy ten-minute mask. This super absorbent mask redefines texture and wards off future outbreaks. That way, you’re securing your future by emphasizing your business know-how, and not your problem skin.
Go Into That Job Interview with Gusto: Use Original Skin™ Retexturizing Mask with Rose Clay
Glowing skin is like a great hair day, it can give you the confidence boost you need before meeting with a potential employer. After all, you want them to focus on what you’re saying, not any skin issues. Show them how you’re a true “Original” by outlining your best traits and what you can add to the company. Your glowing and radiant skin is a bonus.
Ask for a Raise with Confidence: Use Clear Improvement™ Active Charcoal Mask To Clear Pores
A meeting with the boss can be stressful, even to employees who are in good standing. But if you’ve shown “Clear Improvement,” that’s the mask you should use. This active charcoal mask clears your pores, absorbs environmental toxins, and dissolves impurities. Which means, while you’re outlining the progress you’ve made as an employee and giving your boss reasons to give you a raise, your skin is working for you as well.
Before Flying In for a Meeting: Use Drink Up™ Intensive Overnight Mask
Hopping on a flight to pitch a new client can seriously dehydrate you. So what’s girl boss on-the-go to do? Before you take off, opt for the “Drink Up, Intensive Overnight Mask.” The avocado and apricot kernel oils instantly quench compromised moisture reserves and help build a reservoir for tomorrow— which you’ll need once you’re up in the air.
And remember the best way to leave a killer impression in any meeting, is to be yourself. The best you is the one that’s comfortable in her skin— we’re just helping you give it some major glow.
Up In the Air: 3 Ways Boss Women Fly Hydrated
It's 10pm and you're in the airport lounge waiting to board a redeye for your business trip across the country. It's a flight path all too familiar to you-- after all, the hustle can sleep on a plane. Why not make moves across the country to make moves with your career the next day? You say it's time well-managed.
However, it can ravage your body. The mixture of recycled plane air, low humidity environments, and the moisture zapping tendency of winter, can leave you with dry skin, itchy eyes, and you're even more prone to catch a virus. So, what's a boss to do?
Drink Water
This may seem obvious, but for anyone on-the-go a drink and a movie sounds much more appealing (especially on a redeye) than a bottle of water. But make a point to buy a big one before you get on your flight, and make sure you finish it by the time you land.
Flyers tend to nix big bottles of water to avoid annoying their aisle mates by heading to the bathroom every hour, but lack of water and sleeping on a plane make for the perfect recipe for fatigue. Which, IS THE LAST thing you need when you're trying to nail down and impress an investor.
Have trouble remembering? Make it a game and take a sip every time the stewardess turns on the seatbelt sign.
Take Emergen-C or Airborne
It's not in your head that you always get sick on a plane. The air inside the cabin of a plane usually has a humidity level of 10 to 20 percent, which is much lower than typical indoor humidity of 30 to 65 percent. This low humidity level actually affects your health. When your airways are moist, the lining traps viruses from entering your body. When they are dry, those germs have a one-way ticket to your body.
Pack an immune booster in your carry-on.
Pack the Right Moisturizer
Dry, itching skin is the worst. So is a dehydrated looking face. You want to look fresh-faced and rested when you step off the plane. Yes to has a new line formulated specifically for dry skin. The Yes to Coconut is a natural collection that combines nourishing moisturizers like coconut oil that's perfect for skin in need of heavy hydration. To wipe away impurities and makeup try the Coconut Cleansing Wipes. The Ultra Hydrating Facial Souffle Moisturizer is non-greasy and super hydrating. And a dab of Ultra Hydrating Overnight Eye Balm says bye bye to dry eyes as you say hello to a new city.
It Takes Two: Business Bestie Outfit Giveaway from Lou & Grey
It takes two to tango, and we want to give you and your business bestie a treat.
Your business bestie. She's there by your side toasting to your promotion. Taking your late night phone calls when your computer crashes. And making you sit on your hands when you are itching to write a scathing email.
Your career wouldn't be what it is without her, and we're toasting to both of you-- for not getting bogged down by competition and for truly having each other's backs. Because when you're climbing that corporate ladder it's nice to turn around and realize that the person you've always relied on is right there next to you. (And looking good.)
Lou & Grey is teaming up with Create & Cultivate to give away TWO outfits: one for you and one for your BBBFF (business best friend forever). All you have to do is follow the below rules.
Take 10 Minutes for a Hairstyle That Will Last 10 Hours
From a hair-don't, to a hair do in under ten minutes.
The last thing the Create & Cultivate staff has time to think about day of the conference is themselves. Which, after a long week of production prep and late nights, can result in some rather hairy, literally, looks. Luckily, Nick Stenson from Matrix was on hand to give us a few tricks, tips, and product helps that can turn any caffeine-fueled-work-weekend-hair into a polished and professional coif. Because while there is no such thing as a 40-hour work week when you're attempting to run the world a la Beyonce, there is a 10-minute hairDO.
Click through to watch Nick work his magic, that's just as doable for you at home. Steps below.
Barbie Has a Brand New Bod, but What Happens If She Doesn't Sell?
Just how fantastic, is life in plastic?
The other night at dinner I was chatting with a friend about toys that kids play with and the interests they spark. This was ahead of Mattel’s big new reveal— a new generation of Barbie that comes in more than one size. Three new bodies to be exact: petite, tall, and curvy, and they hit the shelves of barbie.com yesterday, January 28th, marking the first time in her history that she's had to change her clothes.
According to a TIME article, this decision is a “massive risk for Mattel.” Barbie has long come in one size and one color (an adjustment they made last year in an effort to combat diversity issues), and that size and color does $1 billion in sales annually. Sold in 150 countries, a Barbie is purchased every three seconds.
Rewind back to the other night. Dude’s point was fairly simple— that playing with G.I. Joes and other similarly camouflaged men encouraged him to look behind the uniform. He said that the toys got him interested in history, made him ask his grandpa about the war, and ignited a lifelong passion and curiosity in current events. What, he wondered, did toys for girls DO for girls?
Aside from some rather obvious flaws in his argument— Barbie, for one, has always claimed to be a champion for women, developing astronaut and doctor Barbie in the ‘60s and ‘70s when women were more likely to be typing and answering phones rather than stitching up a patient— he wasn’t entirely wrong. Barbie’s interests, varied as Mattel has tried to make them, still always come back to her Dream Home, Dream Wedding, Babe Ken and that G’night Kiss, and her Body.
IT’S A CAPITAL B, BODY.
It’s a little wild when you think about it. We’ve been talking about Barbie’s body since Ruth Handler created her in the ‘50s.
"My whole philosophy of Barbie was that through the doll, the little girl could be anything she wanted to be. Barbie always represented the fact that a woman has choices," Handler has said. But despite the fact that she has run for President six times, Barbie’s body has remained the same for over half a century. It’s a change that was bound to come, if not a little late. (No one has ever let the co. live down Slumber Party Barbie, who came with a book entitled “How to Lose Weight” with a one page instruction: Don’t eat.)
On their end Mattel has always claimed, despite studies that prove the opposite, that Barbie has zero influence on young girls’ body image. Which, considering 92% of American girls ages 3-12 have owned a Barbie, is a pre—tty preposterous statement. Lots of stats have come out over the years detailing that IRL Barbie’s BMI would fit the bill for anorexia, that she likely wouldn’t get her period, that her bizarre proportions and size 3 foot would cause her to walk on all fours, and so on.
More so, in regards to the new versions of Barb, Mattel will not divulge the doll proportions or how they were decided on.
But at this point, they are damned if they do, damned if they don’t. That’s what happens when just about every single kid plays with your toys and you’ve got the minivan majority out for blood.
In focus groups some moms wanted Barbie curvier. Others worried that gifting a plumper Barbie could actually create a different set of insecurities. Would the gifted assume that she was “curvy” or “average.” (Some moms were all, where the F is Dad Bod Ken? JK. That’s our idea.)
"Where the F is Dad Bod Ken?"
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Part of the problem is these mom aren’t wrong. This Barbie isn’t reframing the conversation about women’s bodies, but rather adding the zeitgeist that women’s bodies are topic for conversation. Which, circles back to the question of what DOES Barbie spark in young women? Does she inspire young girls to dream big? Make her think about running for Pres one day? It’s possible and yet, this is never what we talk about when it comes to the blonde doll with the perky boobs.
And even though Mattel introduced three new body styles, the majority of the media focus is on the "thicker" one.
BUT THIS NEEDED TO HAPPEN.
Time and sales will tell if it’s too late for Barbie to shift its image. Inclusivity is great, if it actually prompts inclusivity. There is the risk that no young girl is going to want “Curvy” Barbie. The body conversation is moving in the right direction, but if the doll doesn’t do well, will the toymaker pull the plug? And then what? What message does that send young girls?
"If the doll doesn't do well, what message does that send young girls?"
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That’s part of the reason it is a huge, holy smokes kind of risk for the company. And that's part of the reason it also needed to happen. Without risk, there is no reward. There will ALWAYS be Barbie haters; it comes with the territory. Richard Dickson, President and COO of Mattel actually said, “Haters are gonna hate.” But this isn’t a T.Swift anthem. This is a doll that is deeply embedded in the American psyche and has the power to change how young girls view themselves and their friends. Let’s hope she sells, that way we can finally stop talking about her body. That would be boss.
Mane Attraction: 3 Hairstyles to Rock at the Office
Fromm start to finish, we're solving your case of bed head.
It’s a predicament we find ourselves in too often: hitting snooze once, twice, three times (!!) until we jolt awake with a serious case of bed head. OR, we wake up with too much time and waste a chunk of AM figuring out how to do our hair-- up, down, messy bun; too much time and too many options make for a disastrous morning recipe. And being late for work stopped being cute the day you decided to take over the world.
For those instances, we’ve got your back with three quick and easy hairstyles with the help of our friends at Fromm. These looks will save you some time when you’re trying to beat the clock, but will also land you a few not-so-hairy compliments from your colleagues.
How to Pull Off Day to Night with 4 Key Pieces
How to take your look from boss to babe status.
All you need to easily transition from the office to out is a few key pieces. With a little help from Bebe, the company that's been dressing go-get-em-girls since 1976, it's as simple as swapping your jacket and shoes.
DAY: FROM THE OFFICE TO A LUNCH DATE AND BACK TO THE EMAIL GRIND AGAIN.
The dress is your base. Add a vintage jean jacket, a statement necklace, flat black boots (and optional: tights) and you're daytime ready.
Dotted Stripe Sweater Dress. $139. ; Hana Colorblock Tote. $119.
TO NIGHT: OUT FOR HAPPY HOUR, DINNER WITH FRIENDS, OR DANCING FRIDAY NIGHT AWAY.
Swap the denim for faux leather and the flats for heeled booties. It's a change you can make in your car. Add a red lip and a little cheek highlighter and it's a brand new look.
Dotted Stripe Sweater Dress. $139. ; Hana Colorblock Tote. $119. ; Acheline Pointy Booties, $139.
;Julia Faux Leather Jacket, $149.
And for everyone heading to Dallas for Create & Cultivate, be sure to come to Breakfast with Bebe. We're less than two weeks away!
Our Favorite Dallas Finds! Highland Park Village
Dallas' premier shopping destination has you covered, head to toe.
One of the many amazing perks of traveling for Create & Cultivate is learning about must-shop stops in the various cities. Highland Park Village is one such find— it also happens to be America’s first outdoor shopping center.
Talk about entrepreneurial spirit! Highland Park Village became the prototype for retail destinations all over the country, when it opened in 1931. Originally conceived to be a town center, it’s now a bustling hub for all things fashion and food.
Check out some of our favorite stores below, and if you’re heading to C & C Dallas, be sure to pop over to HP Village and get yourself something nice. We think you deserve it.
Starbucks.
You cannot fathom how many amazing luxury stores are in one place. Highland Park Village is like Disneyland for the fashionable girl. So grab a latte, java-up, and get ready to shop.
Chanel.
The bags. The shoes. It’s every girls dream store and it so happens to be right next to Starbucks. Why not start your Highland Park Village experience off with the best that high-fashion has to offer? Chanel is fashion candy at it’s most delicious. Just be careful where you put that latte.
Anthropologie.
Maybe your #girlboss dreams of purchasing your first 2.0 Classic Chanel Flap are still only dreams, but that’s OK. 2016 is goals year. And there is plenty of casual but upscale fashion and home goods at Anthropologie. Be welcomed in by the large glass and doors framed in reclaimed wood and pick out a little treasure to take home.
St. Michael Woman’s Exchange.
More than just a gift shop, this store has raised over $4 million dollars for social service agencies and organizations through the world. Originally called The Women’s Exchange, which opened in 1939, it’s a store that gives back, which is the Texan way.
Alice + Olivia.
Next door to the Exchange is the established brand which opened its very first Texas store in Highland Park this past October. With clothes that cater to the working girl who goes from lunch meetings to drinks, Alice + Olivia is a perfect blend of flirty and sophisticated.
Balenciaga.
Next head to Balenciaga. With its high-polished black and white checkered floor, the store itself is something beautiful to marvel at. With a mixture of classic marble and modern chrome, it might be more stylish than you. But not for long. The Balenciaga Mini City bag never goes out of style. Or opt for the Papier A4 or A6 Zip Around bag. It’s a classic bag that delivers on form, function, and making you feel powerful.
Harry Winston.
Just a quick stop into the fine jewelry house that’s famous for acquiring some of the world’s most famous gemstones. You may not be able to walk out with a ring on your ringer, but a little window diamond shopping never hurt anyone.
Jimmy Choo.
After you visit Harry, pop over to Jimmy. That master shoemaker who can transform any outfit. Get ready to swoon. The Hart 95 boot is the perfect ankle bootie for winter to spring transition, and can be worn to the office and out at night.
Kiehl’s.
Après- shoe, head into Kiehl’s— it’s right next door— and test products from the skin care line that’s been serving up fine formulations for almost 160 years. Create & Cultivate is a long day and the Midnight Recovery Oil will do wonders.
Bistro 31.
If you’re getting hungry, we don’t blame you. Everything has been a feast for your eyes, but now it’s time to grub. At Bistro 31 brunch is a celebration of lemon ricotta pancakes, short rib hash, and a full bar, so you can enjoy an afternoon cocktail or an orange juice— your call.
Highland Park Village is located at 47 Highland Park Village, Dallas, TX 75205. On over 10 acres of land, it’s the premier shopping experience in Dallas.
The Conference Essentials: What's In Our Bag?
Preparing for Dallas? We can help.
It’s almost here! Create & Cultivate Dallas is going to be our biggest conference yet. If you’re prepping for the big day we wanted to share a sneak peak of what we bring— in case you need a little packing help.
Shoulder Bag/Backpack.
Make sure the purse you bring is big enough to hold your goods, but won’t weigh you down. Accounts Director Hope Evans says, “A cumbersome bag can actually get in your way more than you think. C & C is half listening half networking— and when you’re networking you want to be carrying something you don’t have to think about or track. The focus should be on relationship building, not lugging something to-and-fro.”
Vaseline Lip Therapy Tins.
It’s dry in Dallas in the winter and first impressions are crucial. A chapped lip is not your best look. The innovative and iconic Vaseline Lip Therapy Tins not only give you a natural, glossy shine, but also are clinically proven to help heal dry lips and give you moisture that lasts the day long. And C & C is a long day. Even C & C Founder Jaclyn Johnson makes sure to keep one in each of her handbags and at her desk.
Notebook.
There’s so much to do, see, and write-down. From scribbling down quotes from keynote speakers to sound biz advice, the notebook you take home might be chock-full of points that can take your brand to the next level. “You might think, ‘Oh, I’ll remember that,’” says Editorial Director Arianna Schioldager, “but there is so much good content, you should write down exactly what strikes you in a moment,.” (Pens are important too.)
iPhone + Charger.
Social Director Priscilla Castro says, “This is not the time to forget your phone or run out of battery, and while you might think this never happens, it does. Double check your bag before you leave your hotel.” From adding new contacts to all the IG gold— like a sketch done by Paper Fashion’s Katie Rodgers at the Vaseline pop-up during the 4:30-5:30 break. And be sure to #creatcultivatedallas #VaselineLipTins
Instant Film Camera.
Everyone loves those little photos. Plus, if you meet someone you like, snap a shot, and write your number and email on the back. Not only will they go home with a snapped memory, but it’s like a personalized business card.
A Boss Lady’s Guide to Steering the Proposal
How to be vocal about cut and timing.
A proposal. You're a champ at writing them for work, so why shouldn't you be involved in the one that's going to change your life?
In a recent interview with Billboard magazine Nicki Minaj made clear that she wants boyfriend Meek Mill to give her three rings before they get married. She's a boss, with 10 Grammy nominations, so she's acting like one. Apparently, she's not the only one.
According to Simon G. Jewelry, the family-owned and operated jewelry company that's been helping men pop the question with the right bling since 1978, this is becoming more of a trend. While men are still orchestrating the proposal, Simon G.'s VP of Marketing and Communications Brooke Brinkman says, “I think we’ve seen more women being a part of the engagement process because men want to make sure their fiancé is happy; she’ll have to live with the ring the rest of her life, so they want to get it right."
STEP ONE: BE CLEAR ON THE CUT
The more specific you are, the better the result. If you're passing a jewelry store, point out preferences with references cuts you like. If he's paying attention, he can jot down what you say, and take it straight to the jeweler when he's ready.
Sarah from Great Britain, recently engaged says, "Over past few years there were moments where we passed jewelry stores and I would point out my preferences. So I think he had a vague idea!"
Here are some of the most popular cuts:
Round: The round brilliant. A round diamond is the most classic, traditional, and most popular shape of diamond. Most designs are made to fit a round diamond.
Square: A square brilliant diamond with sharp corners is a princess; if it has cut corners, it is a square radiant, and if it has soft, rounded corners it is a cushion cut. It has step faceting (rectangular facets, not kite/triangular like a brilliant cut). The square shapes of diamonds are the second most popular category.
Rectangular: Rectangular shaped diamond cuts include emerald, radiant, and cushions can also be elongated in a soft rectangular shape. Emeralds are elongated step cut diamonds (shortcut: Asscher=square step cut, Emerald=rectangle step cut). An example of the elegant beauty of an emerald cut is Angelina Jolie’s ring.
After that, there are many other fancy cut shapes of diamonds! Heart, marquise, and pear top the list for engagement rings.
STEP TWO: DROP HINTS ABOUT THE RIGHT MOMENT
Knowing how to get what you want, without asking for it specifically is a skill. As a boss, you've been through this with clients and employees. This may seem like an unromantic approach to a proposal, but you want to give your man the tools to do his very best. Don't send him in blind.
According to a survey conducted by The Knot, which polled 19,000 couples, they found that not waiting for the perfect moment was one of the biggest proposal faux pas. That means, no off-the-cuff proposal is going to do. If you don't want a proposal outside your best friend's birthday party when he's buzzing and looking at you with twinkly eye, don't let it happen-- because not proposing with a ring is also on the list of big engagement no-nos.
There are so many subtle ways to let him know what you want. If a Jumbotron proposal sounds like your worst nightmare, next time you're at a game, let him know. "That's sweet, but I'm into more intimate settings." And then drop it. He should get the hint.
The memory of a proposal will last a lifetime, and though the date and place is ultimately at the discretion of the one popping the question, there is no shame in being clear that you want it planned and special.
STEP THREE: UTILIZE A BEST FRIEND
At work, you delegate. The same works for a proposal and ring, because while there is nothing wrong with being vocal, let's also not forget what this moment and ring represents: love, true love-- which isn't about perfection. Using a friend will not only make him feel less bossed about, but most likely, he'll appreciate the help.
Betsy from California, married three years, says, " Some of my friends were involved in choosing the diamond so he definitely had guidance!”
You may not be able to plot your engagement down to every last detail (save that for the seating chart), but there's not harm in trying. You're only going to remember it for the rest of your life.
15 Girl Boss Moments of 2015
2015 was a notoriously BIG (or notorious R.B.G., as it so were) year for females. We laughed, we cried, we banded together, we kicked some corporate ass, and we had some fun in the process. As we're gearing up to say goodbye, we tip our hats and kick off our heels to the women who owned this year. You make our future look bright.
1. Patricia Arquette started the year off on the right fancy foot. When the actress won Best Supporting Actress at the Oscar's she took the time to address wage inequality and a rallying cry for all women. "It's our time to have wage equality once and for all," she exclaimed, which got both Meryl Streep and Jennifer Lopez out of their seats.
2. Jennifer Lawrence continued the wage convo, when she penned an open-letter about the Hollywood pay gap for Lena Dunham's Lenny Letter, entitled: STORIES Hollywood’s Gender Wage Gap Jennifer Lawrence Letters to Lenny Lena Dunham and Jenni Konner Get That Second Wave Style Laia Garcia How Sports Gave Me Swagger Gina Prince-Bythewood Becoming Grace Jones Doreen St. Fél
"Why Do I Make Less Than My Male Co‑Stars?"
“Are we socially conditioned to behave this way?” she wrote. Not if boss women have anything to say about it.
3. During the Superbowl Always #LikeAGirl commercial struck a chord with the nation. And then the U.S Women’s Soccer Team showed the whole world what playing like a a girl really meant. The U.S. team defeated Japan to win the FIFA wold cup. According to some news outlets it was the most watched soccer match in the history of television— men or women. Annndd then Obama mic-dropped everyone: "This team taught all of America’s children that 'playing like a girl' means you're a badass.”
"This team taught all of America’s children that 'playing like a girl' means you're a badass.”
4. In 75 years of ABT (American Ballet Theater) there was never an African American female principle dancer. In June of 2015 Misty Copeland broke down that barrier. “I’m here to be a vessel,” she said at the April 2015 TIME 100 gala, “for these brown ballerinas who have come before me.”
5. Adele said FU to the male gaze on the cover of Rolling Stone, and sold 3 million album copies in one week. Hello. It’s me. The boss.
6. United we stand. 35 women banded together to fight Bill Cosby and a history of sexual assault. On the July cover of NY Magazine, 35 women sat in chairs facing the world: "I'm No Longer Afraid," they told announced. Together. One chair remained empty for all voiceless victims of sexual assault.
7. Hillary Clinton announced her run for the 2016 Presidential bid. "I'm running for President," she said in a video that also featured a diverse group of American stories.
8. Gloria Steinem dedicated her book, "My Life On the Road," to Dr. John Sharpe who performed her illegal abortion when she was 22 years old who made her promise him: "you will do what you want to do with your life."
9. In March Monica Lewinsky gave a TED Talk: The Price of Shame, where the now 41 year old took back her narrative.
"Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop."
10. Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg has been known for her “incrementalism,” -- a slow-but-steady approach to feminism that really hit its stride in 2015 (thanks to the Internet and a few great memes). As an architect for the women's rights movement in the '60s and '70s, Bader Ginsberg has been fighting for gender equality for decades. The now 82-year-old is the oldest Justice on the bench, bit that's not slowing her down.
"Now I happen to be the oldest. But John Paul Stevens didn't step down until he was 90."
11. Viola Davis became the first African-American woman to win an Emmy in the Best Actress in a drama category. “The only thing that separates women of color from anyone else is opportunity. You cannot win an Emmy for roles that simply are not there,” she told the crowd.
12. Female-friendly, safe place on the Internet, HelloGiggles- the website founded by Sophia Rossi and Zooey Deschanel, sold to TIME Inc. this year for a reported 20 million dollars. These ladies proved that you can play nice on the Internet and win.
13. Nepal made history when it elected its first female President. A long-running proponent of equal rights for women, Bidhya Devi Bhandari is seen as cultural shift in male-dominated Nepal politics.
14. The Pentagon announced that women can now serve in front-line ground combat positions.
15. Saudi women not only registered to vote for the first time (in a country where they still aren't allowed to drive), but Saudi women also won a monumental 20 seats in the municipal polls.
AND finally, our hats are off to the following female CEOs and leaders of HUGE tech companies, proving that women have broken through that glass ceiling once and for all: Marissa Mayer, CEO Yahoo!, Meg Whitman, CEO HP, Virginia Rometty, CEO IBM, Susan Wojcicki, CEO YouTube, Sheryl Sandberg, COO, Facebook, Angela Ahrendts, Senior VP, Apple, and Ursula Burns, CEO, Xerox.
When Your Office Feels Like Home: Touring the C & C Home Base
With everyone home for the holidays, we wanted to give you a peek into our second home: the Create & Cultivate office.
To design a space where the C & C team and guests were happy to hang, Veronica Valencia of The Design Hunters chose a blend of smaller, LA-based companies as well as larger brands. Companies like Fragments Identity, Park Studio, Parachute Home, CB2, Framebridge, Helix Sleep, and Artfully Walls. It's a space that doesn't feel like an office -- but also one where work gets handled.
Be sure to check out The Founder's Office as well as the C & C Guest Bedroom.
A Little Gift for You: Last Minute Holiday Wrapping Help!
Wrapping gifts last minute? We've got you.
You've got the tree. The stockings. The hot toddy glasses (a must). You've even got your gift-wrapping corner set up and ready for playing Santa. What you DON'T have are the tags. Instead of opting for making cards out of wrapping paper (with the old fold over trick), we have a simple and stunning solution for your Christmas packages. All you need is a printer.
Danielle McWaters from Design Sake Studio is gifting C & C readers with the most holiday happy gift tags, because no detail should be overlooked.
Danielle McWaters is the creative behind Designsake Studio, a boutique studio specializing in design, direction, and branding. Danielle is a believer of design and it’s ability to create new connections and lasting impressions. It drives her to create things that are not only authentic, but that matter. Working alongside her clients, she develops strategies and solutions to transform big ideas into stand out design.